not the time

I read a blog post today about a family going through an adoption loss. She wasn’t sure if it was a scam or if it were a real situation and the mother changed her mind.

It seems though, that she was assuming it was an adoption scam. Her writing confirmed this.

I read about three prior posts of hers and I can confirm that it was absolutely a scam. It doesn’t seem as though it was for money, probably emotional. The ways that this young girl presented herself, the way she made excuses for things as the time got closer to her delivery – it made sense to me, but perhaps not to someone starting out in an adoption.

I can tell that this is such because I have gone that path – I’ve traveled that route. I was the scammer in situations such as this.

I felt a significant urge to comment on that post – to send her an email. I felt badly for this woman, a woman I didn’t know, but somehow knew so well. I’ve been around the people I’ve hurt and I’ve seen and heard their tears. I’ve felt their love for someone they thought was real. I’ve wanted to heal their pain even though I was the one to cause it – which simply doesn’t make any sense to someone on the opposite end.

I didn’t comment, it wouldn’t have been right if someone ‘like me’ did so. One day, perhaps I will have the courage to do something like this, but now was not the time.