an introduction

Recently, I noticed that my blog was linked to the r house, which has sent a few people over here to take a look at what this blog is all about.

In a nutshell, I was an emotional adoption scammer. I have been in recovery from that addiction for many years at this point.

Since I haven’t written in over a year, I feel that it might be time for me to once again, introduce myself to those that have stopped by.

While I’m anonymous on my blog, I write truthfully about the choices and decisions I have made. I started writing for myself, to have an outlet for my thoughts. And as time went on, I realized that there might be someone out there that has an addiction of their own - that might come across what I’ve written. My hope is to help those that have traveled similar paths – to perhaps prepare them and show them what their life would look like if they continue living as they are.

And also, to explain the signs of a scammer to adopting families – to show them what can happen. I don’t have all the information or the answers on this topic, but there is something similar between all of the people that do/have done this.

The reasons that people scam are all different – I only know my own reasons and what in my background lead me to making those choices. Going through this, having done what I did – has been one of the most eye opening experiences I have yet to experience. While I would never wish the same on any individual, I realize that some people need to go down a particular route prior to changing their lives.

If I had the opportunity to relive this part of my life, to go back and change things, I probably wouldn’t. Clearly, I wouldn’t want the people I scammed to live through that again, but having made those decisions has opened my eyes into what needed to be fixed and worked on. I don’t believe that people scam for fun, although it may seem that way – there is almost always an underlying issue that needs dealing with. I’m here because I understand that and I hope that others will also.